Dating a former promiscuous girl

Dating a former promiscuous girl

I don't expect guys to want to date a woman who cheats, lies, or uses people for her own sexual gratification without regard to their feelings. Morals are a subjective thing. I don't view sex as dirty or as something that has to be shared with only one person. If you want to date someone who has similar views about sex as you do, that's fineas long as you're not the type who thinks its okay for you to do things that its not okay for a woman to do. But assuming that all women who view sex differently than you do are immoral, liars, cheaters, etc. I know a lot of sweet, caring, intelligent, GOOD women who simply enjoy sex and don't think it has to be limited to long-term, committed relationships.

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Thoughts on dating a girl with a promiscuous past. Ok, so you meet a girl who has a lot going for her, and you have great chemistry Constant laughing, great sex, connect on many levels.. Now during some of these laugh sessions, she slips up and starts telling stories about random sexual encounters. Sleeping with her doctor, a guy from the gym, a guy she DIDNT like from online dating at the park after dinner, a customer that came into her store, etc.. And she has no problem stating it was just "casual fun".

Sort of like she was always just a FWB with random guys that hit on her.. So my question for the ladies here would be, is this pretty much common behavior amongst a lot of single women, except they do not talk about it? And my question for the guys would be, would this bother you? Could you trust a girl who was promiscuous? Do you feel your girl is kind of lying when she says she only had a few partners? Does it not make any difference?

As for me when I am with her things are fine But having hearing her stories it does make me wonder what she is doing when I am not with her. Share Share this post on Digg Del. I think there is still a stigma for women to be like this openly. Some probably do hide it. I've experienced two type of women that have been promiscuous and told me. The type of woman that is open about it but doesn't discuss situations in detail with you.

I am fine with this type of woman. I have dated a girl that tripled my 'count', but she was adamantly clear how much she liked me and never described her other encounters. As such, I never experienced jealousy. The type of woman that does what your girl did. I have experienced this, and I have a hard time getting past it. Because everything becomes a comparison of what she did with others to what she did with you.

Plus, it's plain unattractive to know someone else could get what you have so easily. Also, keep in mind that describing your sexual past may upset women in the same way. Being respectful is always a good thing. Not even a kiss. I just wouldn't. I couldn't, because I know that once I broke that bond of fidelity, I'd HAVE to tell the other person, I've always struggled to imagine how people keep it to themselves and hide it, because once I did it I know I'd be so torn up with guilt I'd have to confess.

So, I just wouldn't cheat. Because I would expect someone I cheated on to leave me in an instant like I would them. So cheating for me would mean the end of the relationship Once I'm in a relationship, I'm very committed. I've only ever left one relationship and that was after four years of trying to make it work. The rest of the time I've usually been the one left, as once I'm with someone and in love it takes a lot for me to change my mind. Sexual promiscuity while single has nothing to do with fidelity while in a relationship.

In fact I've anecdotally known more people cheat because they haven't played the field and wonder what they're missing out on, than I have promiscuous people keep on sleeping around while in a relationship. At least when you've slept around a tonne you know what's out there, so there's less risk of wanting to stray out of sheer curiosity. If a guy I meet doesn't want to date me because I've slept around then that's totally his choice and doesn't bother me.

But to presume I will cheat because I've been promiscuous would be so far off the mark. For the record I'm the type of girl that is as open with a partner as he wants me to be. I'd never lie about my past or 'number' if asked, but wouldn't shove the details in his face unless he wanted to know enough that he specifically asked. Are you deadelvis with a new profile name??

To answer your question, i fail to see what does a promiscous past got to do with being faithful in a relationship. Many years ago i was in a ltr. My count was a lot higher than of my partner. I also dated a guy some time ago who coaxed things out of me about my past then called me a reformed slut when he was drunk.. He had a massive madonna-whore complex.

There are guys who dont want to know No, i have never had sex with someone in the park after a first date but i think i can see where this thread is going. Think this also depends on what your plans are for this relationship. Is this going to be a long term relationship or are you just dating for fun? What are her expectations. I'm in a similar position and in a LTR with a woman with a promiscuous past. When we made the decision to move in and work towards getting engaged we discussed our mutual pasts.

So we both for the most part know the basics, just not the specifics and mechanics of our past. But based on her family experience and some of her traumas, it did not surprise me that she was promiscuous. Nor was she surprised to hear about my past in light of what happened to me. When my GF did have a relapse into her old behavior a few years ago before we met, I made sure that I understood what happened.

Plus she knows what drove me to relapse into unhealthy dating patterns last year. We keep each other in check. Biggest thing is to talk about it. But it is tough, think it is tougher for men to get over a partners past than it is for women. My number is in the triple digits and hers is under 15 for the past 20 years I don't bother keeping score of what she did before her first marriage. But the fact that of the 15 happened in a three month period still bugs me a little. I don't find her behaviour that strange, but I do find it strange that she would go into such detail about it..

THAT is the part that would concern me. What did she hope to gain by telling you all of that stuff i wonder? To establish that the situation between the two of you was casual I would guess? I've been quite promiscuous in the past but safe. I'm sexually liberal and experimental, but I would never and have never cheated on anyone despite being in 3 long term relationships. I also have never had any STDs and get checked regularly.

I just like sex and am not always in relationships, and prefer to have casual sex than to commit to a relationship with someone that I don't truly care about. When I'm with someone that I do care about then none of those other things matter. I'm ferociously loyal when I'm in a relationship, which is probably why i don't enter into them with just anyone I want to sleep with.

I don't tell my boyfriends the details of these things unless they ask however. I don't pretend to be sexually conservative at ALL, nor do I lie or mislead them about my past in any way. However, there are some things you'd just rather not know about the person you're dating. I don't want the gory details of what they've done in the past because then I can't get the image out of my head and it has nothing to do with me anyway.

I don't know why she would think you would want to know all of those things. Are you two just starting to date now? Worry less about numbers and worry more if she even cheated on a man or used a guy for material gain or whatever he can do for her. That is a bigger red flag than who she slept with. I was promiscuous in the past. And stayed totally monogamous for a good 14 years I recently had a brief affair - but the reasons where many.

I think my views regarding sex made sleeping with someone outside of my relationship a bit easier, but was far from the main reason. So, despite being pretty casual about who I hooked up with in the past, I was able to keep my pants on for quite a while. Now like someone else pointed out - I was truthful with my boy friend that I had some casual flings - but never divulged details.

Originally Posted by Natalie8. The Social Pathologist: Sexual Partner Divorce Risk. Let's say you're 30 years old and slept with over 80 men. Now, are you excited to share that with your man? Probably not. Why is that? I don't think it should be an issue of how many men she's slept with, the issue is that she is telling you about it.

It is dumb for a man or woman to date anyone who is promiscuous. Lloyd Gaarder, former Safety & Environmental Officer at Chernobyl. My ex wife used to be pretty promiscuous. She still is, but . He often would joke with me that I should date a girl with daddy issues. I don't think.

Some forums can only be seen by registered members. Just wondering if anything good can ever happen if you try to date a woman who is promiscuous. Sweet Like Sugar. Originally Posted by bson If you like promiscuous women you should date them, marry them, have sex with them.

I have no desire to live in anger or point fingers.

Yet you can get over this if you choose to. Either way, sometimes the truth can hurt. A lot.

So Your Girlfriend Used To Sleep Around... What To Do Now?

Thoughts on dating a girl with a promiscuous past. Ok, so you meet a girl who has a lot going for her, and you have great chemistry Constant laughing, great sex, connect on many levels.. Now during some of these laugh sessions, she slips up and starts telling stories about random sexual encounters. Sleeping with her doctor, a guy from the gym, a guy she DIDNT like from online dating at the park after dinner, a customer that came into her store, etc.. And she has no problem stating it was just "casual fun".

Do you guys date promiscuous women?

Last week, new reader Nancy stumbled onto an old post I wrote about one risk of female promiscuity that no one likes to talk about. It led her to share a story that is painful to read, but I offer it here as a public service announcement. Millennial women, be aware. Feminism did not rid society of the sexual double standard. Men remain loath to commit to women with considerable previous sexual experience. He sees your past as a valid predictor of your future behavior. The other thing you should be aware of is that the truth will out. Hiding your past for a lifetime is extremely difficult logistically, but it is also very burdensome psychologically to keep that secret.

It depends.

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Would you date a promiscuous girl?

If instagram likes were currency then this type of woman would be a billionaire. All she does is pout. The irony of it all is there is no evidence from her Instagram, that she has a life outside of Instagram. She never wants to wear any clothes to the point where you question whether she has any clothes. She always has a retort to their sexual advances and yet all this could have been avoided if she wore some clothes. She compares you to her ex. You have no choice but to delete her number. This type of woman never pays her way but expects to be catered to regardless of whether the man is able to or not. She never wants to contribute, she just wants to spend. Aside from her being insanely attractive sometimes you question her sanity.

Do you guys date promiscuous women?

Log in or Sign up. Do you guys date promiscuous women? Aug 6, Messages: Because it seems to me the choice is to either a date these types of disreputable women or b be a foreveralone virgin. How do you guys cope with this off-the-charts promiscuity of western women? In , there is honestly no distinction at all between the habits of a porn actress or prostitute and the average western female. I'm talking with this chick who admits to going through a different guy every week, sometimes multiple guys during a week and then another on the weekend.

From the time I was 13 on, I was a promiscuous teen.

The only problem is that it intimidates other women and men. Have modern relationships changed for the better or worse? When it came to myself, I noticed men in particular were not pleased knowing that I dated a lot. They found that weird and unnecessary. But, when it came to them, it was okay to sleep around a lot or date as many women as they wanted. Actually, promiscuity is only really discussed when talking about women. What do you call a man that is promiscuous?

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The Dating Nerd is a shadowy figure whose whereabouts and identifying details remain unknown. What we do know is that he is really, really good at dating. Things are going great. She used to be a huge party girl — like, she drank a lot, and she slept with lots of people. This really bothers me. What do I do about this? What do you do?

Does Her Sexual Past Bother You?

In her weekly column, she gives Complex readers insight into what today's young women really think about love, sex, and relationships. This sort of thing happens to ladies all the time—we come across a guy with an insatiable sexual appetite and mysterious persona and suddenly want to be the one to change him. Sadly, all girls in said circumstance have realized the hard way: The same thing happens to men when they spot that prized female with the extensive track record and try to throw limitations on her. Some guys might actually convince these chicks to put their wild ways aside and temporarily settle for simpler lives spent decorating the house or going on couples dates, but we know how that tends to turn out. Once they gain trust and have her fully wifed up, they can easily hold those insecurities against her, bringing up all that past shit that they know hurts her the most.

It's difficult meeting just the right person. You can go out to bars, clubs, coffee shops, restaurants, and parks every week for your entire life and not meet the right person. It's arduous being patient while the loneliness continuously creeps up onto you. But when you find someone that you think may be the right fit, someone that you enjoy spending time with, and someone that makes the loneliness melt away, it's one of the most satisfying feelings in the world. And then, one day, after months of getting to know each other, meeting her friends and family, you find out that back home she was known as the town bicycle.

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